Please note I said lucky, not happy. I’m lucky because I never had to consider an old age home for either of my parents. With all the hype and stuff in the news, it’s quite a benefit, isn’t it? However, perhaps there is a reasonable explanation for all the complaints that you hear.
1. Dad says they are stealing his money.
They probably are, he leaves it lying around everywhere and even I have grabbed a couple of bucks. Ok, I stole all his money.
2. Mom says they are stealing her medication.
Again, before you start accusing the staff, maybe look in Skinny’s purse. You know very well I’m stealing her oxys.
3. Dad has weird bruises on his body, something must be wrong.
He somehow drinks six beers every day and falls down, like he always did. Wasn’t he always missing money and covered in bruises?
4. Mom looks really thin, are they feeding her?
Yes, they are feeding her, and I stole her food. I steal everyone’s food, so why would I stop at my mother?
5. And what does actually happen when they eventually die in those places?
And now where am I gonna eat?
People accuse these places of the most heinous things, yet people can be pretty horrible to their elderly parents. Trust me, sometimes, it’s not the staff that are the assholes.
Why are your parents in facilities where they are mistreated? Why haven’t you beaten the living shit out of the people mistreating them? The lawsuits I should see on late night TV are “were you shit kicked by one of your patient’s daughters? If so, call now.”
Some of us are willing to rebuild their homes to keep their parents out of these places.