Five Reasons I’m Lucky My Parents Are Dead

Five Reasons I'm Lucky My Parents Are DeadPlease note I said lucky, not happy. I’m lucky because I never had to consider an old age home for either of my parents. With all the hype and stuff in the news, it’s quite a benefit, isn’t it? However, perhaps there is a reasonable explanation for all the complaints that you hear.

1. Dad says they are stealing his money.
They probably are, he leaves it lying around everywhere and even I have grabbed a couple of bucks. Ok, I stole all his money.

2. Mom says they are stealing her medication.
Again, before you start accusing the staff, maybe look in Skinny’s purse. You know very well I’m stealing her oxys.

3. Dad has weird bruises on his body, something must be wrong.
He somehow drinks six beers every day and falls down, like he always did. Wasn’t he always missing money and covered in bruises?

4. Mom looks really thin, are they feeding her?
Yes, they are feeding her, and I stole her food. I steal everyone’s food, so why would I stop at my mother?

5. And what does actually happen when they eventually die in those places?
And now where am I gonna eat?

People accuse these places of the most heinous things, yet people can be pretty horrible to their elderly parents. Trust me, sometimes, it’s not the staff that are the assholes.

Why are your parents in facilities where they are mistreated? Why haven’t you beaten the living shit out of the people mistreating them? The lawsuits I should see on late night TV are “were you shit kicked by one of your patient’s daughters? If so, call now.”

Some of us are willing to rebuild their homes to keep their parents out of these places.



Five Reasons I'm Lucky My Parents Are Dead

26 thoughts on “Five Reasons I’m Lucky My Parents Are Dead

  1. I know what you mean. My Mom died suddenly of hear failure at home in 2003, just fell down and was gone. In 2006 I retired to come help Dad, who turned out to be in early stage Dementia (aged 90). I was able, with some in-home care services, to keep him at home until late in 2013. At that point he was very frail, falling, becoming incontinent, and so on, and no longer safe in the home (stairs and such). His memory was so far gone that once he got to the nursing home he didn’t remember being anywhere else. His in-home nurses also worked at the nursing home and liked him. He did get good care, but was fading fast both mentally and physically and passed quietly in his sleep in about three months. I was a long seven years working to allow him to be at home as long as possible, and worth every bit of it.

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  2. This would actually be funny if it wasn’t so damn true. My mum’s been put in a home less than twelve months ago. She went from being a strong independant woman going to the gym twice a week to needing two brain operations that went horribly wrong. And now she’s in a home, as much as we wanted to look after her she needed more 24/7 care, much than we could provide. But at least she has good care. I visit her three times a week and she’s well looked after which is a blessing. There are plenty of good care facilities out there, as well as the dodgy ones.

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  3. Important post Laura. Great idea to try and accommodate elderly parents in our own homes, but not always possible. But it’s key to observe the goings ons wherever they are placed, or keeping an eye on who is looking after them even if they remain in their own homes. πŸ™‚

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