Dear Women Who Don’t Want Children

Dear Women Who Don't Want Childrenf

Is there something wrong with you? Nope, you just don’t want children, holy shit, what? Someone who doesn’t want children? Well, clearly we must rake these women over the coals and make them feel like crap. Let me clear my schedule, I wasn’t penciled in to destroy anyone today.

Ok, I have some time now.

How dare you not want children? (How about for a thousand reasons that I won’t understand.)

This makes me laugh and want to strangle my mother, your mother and maybe an aunt or two.

Not everyone is set out to have children, if you don’t want them, please don’t have them. Don’t have children to please some dried up old bitch in your family.

Do your thing. It’s your life.

PS: Not everyone wants children, children are scary, children suck. Those that have children are crazy.

 

 

 

 

Dear Women Who Don't Want Children
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206 thoughts on “Dear Women Who Don’t Want Children

  1. I love this, I have a growing number of friends who not only don’t want kids, feel a need to explain why they don’t. Its a life choice to have kids, and not explain why you want them, why should you have to explain why you don’t want them. (Although my friends tend to share my stories of my son as the perfect example)

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  2. Hey I agree with your opinion about women having to feel like they should have children. It is a decision that needs to be thought out, and unfortunately too many people don’t think about it and children can suffer. Women should do whatever they choose, have children or don’t and it’s nobody’s business. As a parent I can tell you it is the hardest thing ever, but she doesn’t suck. She is the best, and yes sometimes I feel crazy!

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  3. When I was single, I didn’t want kids. When I married my wife, I was certain we’d have a house full of them. Life had other ideas. Wanna talk awkward? Be married for almost 20 years and not have kids because you can’t, not because you don’t want any. I resigned myself to my prior mindset, my desire to not want any and went on with things. Our niece lived with us for a few months and I became convinced I’d make a terrible dad. HATED IT.

    But!

    When our daughter was finally born, I changed. I love having kids and I am a totally different person than who I was as a single guy. Marrying my wife and having our daughter were absolutely the two best things that ever happened to me. Luckiest guy in the world.

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  4. I have one (by choice) and she was married in August!! I πŸ’• love her to pieces. Her father and I divorced before she started fourth grade. Changed schools. /moved and Mom was now a” working mom”….she graduated top of the class in high school and college. Her father and step-mom and all extended family love her. She is a wonderful woman. My blonde baby….now 26!!! ☺ I would love to ramble how I loved reading to her and rocking Her to sleep…. But… Yes. Too many people have kids as teens and the kids suffer. Welfare and government programs support the kids and parents. Girls getting pregnant IN middle school and high school. Woman who have kids because “hubby” wanted them. We wanted our daughter..we were married five years before she was born .!!! I agree… Being childless is a personal decision. It’s OK to say No. How much worse to have them and neglect them and forget and leave them to roast IN a hot car. Many are unfit parents.” Stupid people shouldn’t breed”. A bumper sticker I love.
    It isnt stupid if you do not want kids. A choice. I am pestered as much at 53 as to why I changed careers and dumped my ex boyfriend /as these people are who are nit picked about providing Grandma and grandpa with a little bundle of joy. Leave your nose out of it people!!!!! It may be a medical condition where they tried and cannot. Personal. Like my life. If I want… I will share. Same with childless women. If they want you to know… They will tell you. Thanks for letting me vent. ☺

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  5. I really wish women would quit being told how to use their bodies and then lives. If there was less pressure to have kids, maybe we wouldn’t be experiencing the shit storm of an overpopulated planet.

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    • If sexual education wasn’t such a taboo subject and people were just open and honest with their children then we wouldn’t have an overpopulation problem, abortion problem or unwanted child problem.

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  6. With a world population of more than 7 billion, there is no shortage of people. For this reason alone, it is ludicrous for anyone to feel pressured to have children if they really don’t want to.

    I never understood how huge the number 7 billion is, until someone told me this: if we could say the name of each person now living at the rate of one name per second, non-stop, around the clock, 24 hours per day, 7 days per week, 365 days per year — at that rate, it would take more than 221 years to say the name of every person now living!

    I checked it on my calculator and it is true! So definitely, no one should feel pressured to reproduce if they don’t want to.

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  7. I’ve got two. If I had my life over again, I’m not sure that I would choose to have kids! It’s not for everyone, and it is totally our right NOT to reproduce. The world is overpopulated enough, anyway!

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  8. LOL I have four kids, and I love being a mom. I also love gardening and cooking, yoga and kittens, soda, sewing, and snow. I don’t get angry about whether anyone else likes what I like. Furthermore, why on earth do people not go on about men who don’t want children? So sexist.

    This is me, not caring about the breeding habits of others. Be happy, do whatcha like πŸ™‚

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  9. I LOVE kids. Other peoples are great. We are heading to 8 billion inhabitants on the planet earth…some thinking needs be done before rushing in to parenting. But I am an old, happily bitchy, free after 3 marriages…(I know!) woman with lots of time to think and enjoy the luxury of solitude! lol.

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  10. I love being a parent, that being said though if someone doesn’t want children I say good! Way to many children that are born to parents that have NO BUSINESS having kids. If you know ahead of time you don’t want kids and take preventive steps to ensure yourself of not having any I’m not going to hold it against that person.

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  11. I honestly respect the people for not having kids especially since you know yourself and know its not for everyone. There is nothing wrong with someone who doesn’t want to have kids, it’s freaking hard and let’s be honest there are people out there that have kids and should not be parents. Great post, #famjamlinky

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  12. You are absolutely right not everyone is cut out to be a father, throughout my life I’ve contemplated this often. My brother is a born parent and excellent father, my sister-in-law a wonderful mother and all round perfect ‘baking sewing’ wonder woman, I adore my nephews and nieces but I just know I’d have messed things up, tried my best but failed. Lol and I know my mum’s disappointed.

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  13. Not all children suck, I am not an dried up old woman in my daughter’s family I am her mother that would love her to experience the type of love you can only get from having your own children. I would love to see her be in love with a man so much that she can’t see herself not experiencing something so amazing as bring a new life into this world. For them to experience the new things every day that come with having a child. The pride you feel as a parent when your children learn to walk, talk, make you breakfast in bed when you have a lazy morning, first day of school, the Christmas concert, learning to drive, first loves, marriage, having children. I mean I totally get that everyone has an opinion about this but there is definitely 2 sides to this and I guess when the old broads that didn’t have children are sitting in a home with no visitors, no one to come get them at Christmas and they get to sit and watch the ones that did, enjoy their children and grandchildren they may have 2nd thoughts. So little to late and maybe just maybe they may feel a little selfish.

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  14. I am crazy, I do struggle at times but I wanted them and wouldn’t have it any other way! 😊 your right though, if you don’t want children please don’t have any it is harder than it looks ha! #famjamlinky

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  15. I never wanted kids! And I was determined (as my strong-willed, bossy, and stubborn self would) to stand up for that choice. But I unexpectedly became pregnant and now have two kids. Love them to death and kind of want a 3rd!! Haha life changes but I totally get both sides of the coin

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  16. Even within these comments there are judgments – even people claiming to be supportive are saying things like “some people are just unfit” “some people have no business having kids” “it’s so HARD” – and you know what? I’m perfectly capable. PERFECTLY capable. I’d be terrific. And I still don’t want to. I love kids, and am close to nieces and nephews, but that’s enough. I treasure my life as is. I have a family: myself, and my partner. And this may not be true of all marriages, but I don’t need kids to fully experience love. My marriage already has that. If some lacked love before, that’s their thing, but don’t put that on me! It’s a beautiful thing to have exactly the kind of life you want. I’ve definitely seen it in some of my friends and siblings with kids, that true happiness, and they see it in me. Different lives, different choices, but equal.

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  17. I completely agree. For years I was sure I didn’t want children, and I was okay with that, but there is a constant barrage of people asking when you’re going to have them and that doesn’t feel great no matter how resolute you are! I’ve seen many women buckle under that pressure who are now reluctant parents. For my own journey, I realized I did want a child eventually, and had her at the right time for me. I feel like this same post could also be used for women who don’t want to get married! Don’t do it for anyone but yourself!

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  18. I think if people want kids, that’s great! They should have them. I think if people don’t want kids, that’s great! They shouldn’t have them.

    I don’t see how it help anybody, parent or child, to put moral pressure on people to have kids if they’d rather not have them.

    Just my two cents.

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  19. Great post! Bringing love from the #famjamlinky. I definitely didn’t want children prior to having them and now I can’t imagine my life without my son. However, I tell people that it is a personal choice and it is hard being a working mother making sure that I don’t destroy the fragile mind of this child by wanting a career, divorcing his dad and following your passion but in the end it was so worth it for me.

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  20. Loved this

    I don’t have, nor have I ever wanted, kids. I have cats. My mum is perfectly happy with her grand kitties. OMG! That makes me a crazy cat lady, doesn’t it? Lol. Oh well.

    I was at the grocery store last week, my cart filled with kitty food (I donate some to my local shelter), and a little old lady walked past me and said, “No puppies and kitties for me. I have grandchildren.” My response, “I’d rather have the kitties. They don’t smell.” Lol πŸ™‚

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  21. I always wanted kids. I remember when I was asked what i wanted to be when i grew up answering “a Mum” πŸ™‚ You’re right though, it is a personal choice, and certainly not a decision someone else’s opinion should influence. #weekendblogshare

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  22. I love this so much. As a woman who doesn’t want children, I’m treated like an alien. I shouldn’t have to explain why I prefer to sleep in and not go bankrupt. I love children, as I’m a teacher, but I enjoy sending them on their way, so I can go home and drink a glass of wine in peace and quiet.

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  23. I have children and am very glad I did (and truly grateful I was able too – when some women, who would love to have children, can’t). That said, I also have a few friends who have chosen to be childless. I don’t know why they made that choice, but I totally agree with your statement, “if you don’t want them, please don’t have them.”.

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  24. As always, entertaining and thought-provoking. Why choice is so awesome.
    Hope this day is treating you kindly.
    I popped over this morning from #MidLifeLuv (hi Elena!), but I’m over enough that you might need to rent me a spare room. πŸ˜‰

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  25. Hmm….if people like me didn’t choose to have NOT kids I would not have had the money, love, time or energy to spend on the ones who got dumped on me…by clowns who allegedly WANTED them
    The Universe is a funny mother-effer ain’t it?
    That being said, I do feel bad my parents got no grandchildren, was hoping my brother would cover that department.

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  26. I have no kids of my own, and my boyfriend’s 3 kids live in another country. I’m totally happy with this arrangement — as someone else mentioned, I find the little bastards quite boring πŸ˜‰ #midlifeluv

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  27. After having been a public school teacher for thirty years (1975-2005) and working with more than 6,000 children from K – 12, I can say with authority that any fool can become a parent—just like any fool can become President of the U.S. and often do—and some clearly shouldn’t be a president and/or a parent.

    That said, I’m wondering if my parents should have opted out, but then I wouldn’t be here if they had. My dad was an alcoholic and a gambler and my mother, well, … she did her best, and her three children, my older brother (now gone) and sister (still around in her 80s), survived. How we have survived stumbling through life, I have no idea.

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  28. Almost every child In my caseload, during my second career in education, had been emotionally abused/neglected/stifled. They all had horrendous ‘behavioural problems’ as a result. It made life hard for their teachers.

    As for the children themselves, life was a misery being ‘looked after’ by people who had not got a clue how to foster good self-esteem, self-confidence and all round robust emotional health. Some of the cases were really bad but they weren’t considered serious enough by those above me to take action.

    Emotional abuse is so hard to prove. And in any case, how do you tackle it? That is one of the many reasons why society is in such a mess. But it is a fundamental one.

    Those making conscious decisions to not have kids may have been the kind of parents society needs (if they had wanted children). There appear to be too many mindless, screwed up women (from their own childhoods?), who are probably not using birth control, just popping babies out expecting them to bring themselves up while they sit playing Candy Crush on their iPhones.

    Judgemental? Yes – but that is what I see around me when I go into any town in the UK. I feel compassion for the neglectful mums because it is all they know but please just stop having babies you cannot cope with. I was not the best mother on the planet but at least I was aware of infant emotional needs. I absolutely agree with what you are saying here.

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  29. Great post. Sometimes circumstances prevail, and the option gets taken away from us, and yet; we’re still treated badly. Thank you for the visit & the follow. Travel safe on your path πŸ™‚

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